Gender Difference in Dialogue

Deborah Tannen

Scholarly research in the area of  gender differences have distilled an important mental frame that women bring to dialogue.

Sociolinguist and author, Deborah Tannen, writes, “women tend to focus on the question, Is this conversation bringing us closer or pushing us apart? On the other hand, men tend to focus on the question, Is this conversation putting me in a one-up or one-down position?”

Deborah Tannen, “Contrite Makes Right,” Civilization (April/May 1999): 69.